When is it time to shut your mouth

Question for the day: When is it time to shut your mouth?

When you feel like you've been run over by a steam roller at work and your boss calls you ten thousand times a day and piles work on your table again and again and again and asks you why the paper on his hand says this and that, do you just sit there and take everything? I've been in this office almost 7 years already and in that 7 years I can say that I have been able to practice temperance, diligence, patience, kindness and humility among the 7 virtues. It takes all of these virtues to deal with my boss every single day, but through the years I have mustered enough courage to speak up and scream as loud as I can, which is an exageration, but I learned to fight fire with fire and so far it has worked. Just yesterday one of our customers was sick, I know it was mean to tell him to go home and rest 'coz I don't want to be sick, guess what he said "shut the fuck up Ollie!" which was a joke but if I were my old sensitive self I'd have cowered and cried, but being me who I am today I told him to "shut the fuck up" too, an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth.. =).. Sometimes I think that I open my mouth too much though coz now my boss was telling me " are you upset with me or something?", I just told him that I was doing something when he gave me something else to do and now he wants me to explain why the amounts on the papers in his hand are the way they are, I'm not upset, just let me finish what I'm doing right now first, then I will answer your questions... this is not the right time to shut your mouth...

When you are in a line going to the movies, not the library, museum or church, and rude people stare you down like you have some disease they could catch just because you are talking, should you shut your mouth? When you boss mutters something under his breath and you know that it's not something good, should you shut your mouth? when some idiot tries to be rude to you trying to speak in their language when you've insisted you don't understand, cut in line or bitch at you in a different language, should you shut your mouth? I don't, I learned to curse them with my native language, yes, being a Filipino and speaking the native language has alot of positive attributes. Most of our fellow countrymen want to be as American as possible, but me no, I love being a Filipino, oh but that would be another blog. Going back to my topic, just because we don't understand them doesn't mean they can go around bitching and cursing us, I can do that too, I know 2 different languages.. so there you go, NO I won't shut my mouth...

I'm so used to talking back at nasty people behind their back, or maybe in front of them in my native language just because I can and I think I'm getting used to being as nasty as they are, which I think will get me in trouble when I go back home, probably get me beaten up coz everybody there will understand what I'm saying hahaha.. I know this is not a laughing matter but think about it when someone crosses you and you know they said something bad for everyone to hear, do you hold your tounge in check and just let it pass? I have learned to do that at times but when they've crossed the line, I just let them get it too. I know I should start practicing restraint not only coz I plan to go back home soon(I don't want to get beaten or my hair pulled hahaha), but when I get out of this job I want to be the old me who is patient and can tolerate anything, not just too much. Now it is time to shut my mouth.... 

When is being frank a good thing and a bad thing. It is bad when too much information is said and it hurts the person,either it's not true or they're not ready to hear it, or it's not what they want to hear. It is good when too much information is said and it hurts the person because it's the truth and even though it hurts they should hear it anyway. In the 30 years I have been on this earth I can say that I would rather hear the truth(which usually hurts) than something I want to hear covered in lies and deceit. It's funny that I'd rather be in pain for the time being than wait and carry on a relationship or a friendship that would turn out painful any which way you look at it. Having lived here in this liberated country for the past 7 years I can say that I picked up the good and the bad, but most of all I learned to open my mouth and not just sit there and be a ragdoll. Looking back, I would rather have had my friends tell me I was a bitch when I was and tell me the truth than tell me what I wanted to hear, yes, I can be scary but not telling me the truth makes me more mad than I'm supposed to be, and yes, it will hurt and yes, I can and will recover, I just need time. Having said this I am warning everyone that this is who I am, I am frank-er than I used to be and I will say what I want. I changed, I think for the better but not because I'm boastful or because I'm full of air, this is life and I learned to deal with it and this is Ollie, all grown up, deal with it. No I will never shut my mouth...